A woman has sparked a debate after explaining why she was upset her boyfriend was going to a hen party with all-female bridesmaids.

In a recent post shared with the popular “Am I the idiot? Reddit forum, the woman said her boyfriend will be the only man on his friend's bachelorette trip. She explained that her partner has a “best friend” who recently invited him to be her “man of honor” at her wedding.

After noting that the bride also has a “maid of honor,” the Reddit poster acknowledged that she also has a male best friend.

“We both agreed to have friends of the opposite sex,” she wrote of her partner. “But I don’t text my friend daily and I talk to him all day. We check in every now and then, we go out every now and then, and I usually always try to include my boyfriend on dates.”

However, she stated that when her boyfriend “goes out drinking with his friends”, he “never invites her”. She then described the bachelorette party her boyfriend was invited to and why she wasn't happy that he was there.

“Now he’s been invited on a bachelorette trip. A weekend getaway with a house full of women and drinking. This makes me extremely uncomfortable and I've mentioned it before,” she continued.

She then shared more details about her boyfriend and his fiancée's past history, adding, “Not to mention, I've never had any romantic feelings for my friend. He admitted to having feelings for his friend in the past.”

The woman concluded the post by claiming that her boyfriend doesn't necessarily think it's bad to go to the bachelorette party.

“He ignores it and acts like I’m overreacting,” she wrote. “If I went on a singles trip with a group of guys for a weekend, I'm sure he wouldn't be okay with it.”

The Reddit post quickly went viral, with over 14,000 upvotes as of April 3. In response to the post, several people agreed that they would have problems if their partner traveled with all the women. They also criticized the Reddit user's boyfriend for ignoring their concerns about the bachelorette party.

“Going on a trip with multiple women you are not related to while in a relationship is your (very reasonable) limit,” one wrote. “If he can't respect that, then you two are incompatible. Based on some of the other facts you shared above, it sounds like you are uncomfortable with many of his other actions and behaviors. To be honest, I would be too. Why continue to subject yourself to this?”

“This is completely disrespectful to you, and apparently he doesn’t care that you’re hurt. You are not allowed to date him and these women, there is a reason(s) for that. Why are you wasting your energy on someone who doesn't give a shit about your feelings? another added.

“I've been married for 45 years and whenever my wife told me if she was uncomfortable with something I wanted to do, I didn't do it. She is my priority and I have never put her in that situation,” wrote a third. “What your boyfriend is doing/asking is completely irrational and if he can't see that, then he really isn't her boyfriend.”

However, other people expressed that, in their opinion, it did not seem like a problem for a man to travel with members of the opposite sex. However, they found it strange that the Reddit user hadn't been invited to hang out with her boyfriend's friends.

“Dude here, my best friend was a girl (passed away) and I was the Man of Honor at her wedding,” wrote one. “The issue here is not the best friend, or the opposite sex, it's that you are not included in any meetings. That's the sketch part for me. My best friend was our group's planner, and anyone I dated was always welcome. Even if they didn’t feel like going, the invitation was there.”

Another agreed: “I think the biggest problem is that he doesn't involve you with his friends. I'm not sure how long you've been together, but that would be what would hurt me the most. It would be easier to trust him if he involved you with his friends and saw how he interacted.”

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